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1、PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT1. KNOW YOURSELF2. A POSITIVE SELF IMAGE3. AIMING AT EXCELLENCE4. IMPROVING YOUR MEMORY5. IMPROVING YOUR MEMORY FURTHUR6. YOU CAN MAKE THE DIFFERENCEWHAT IS PERSONALITY?Personality can be used as a universal term that encompasses all the psychological, intellectual, emotional,
2、 and physical characteristics of an individual, especially as they are presented to other people. We say that someone has a big personality or no personality, or a sports personality. Personality is reflected in our behaviour. When we act out of character we often say It just wasnt like me, I wasnt
3、myself. This reflects a key point about your personality - its a relatively stable and permanent aspect of you as a person. You may have mood swings, be up or down according to specific circumstances. But, your basic personality underlies these changes.Personality profilesThe 5 main dimensions of pe
4、rsonalityIt is generally recognised that personality can be described by reference to 5 key dimensions or global factors. Most of us lie somewhere between the two extremes for each global factor listed below. 1. Extrovertion (Extroversion v Introversion) Extroverts are outgoing, warm individuals who
5、 enjoy company. They are lively, fun-loving and are often quite open about themselves. They are group-oriented people who naturally join in with others. An introvert is someone who is self-sufficient and prefers his or her own company. Introverts are generally careful, serious and self-reliant. 2. A
6、nxiety (Anxious v Confident)Anxious people worry a lot and are often tense. They are also impatient people with a lot of nervous energy. They can also be very shrewd and hard to fool. On the other hand, the confident person is calm in the face of adversity, meets challenges easily, and exudes self-a
7、ssurance. A high degree of stability is also accompanied by a resilient, even placid manner, which can sometimes be too trusting and relaxed.3. Tough-mindedness (Objective v Subjective)Tough-minded people are unsentimental and look at things objectively. The opposite is the tender-minded person who
8、is more subjective and willing to experiment.4. Independence (Assertive v Co-operative)Independence is characterised by a dominant, forceful person who is competitive. This means they can also be rather insensitive to other people. Co-operative people are agreeable, preferring to avoid conflict. The
9、y are often described as shy.5. Control (Conscientious v Flexible)The conscientious person is self-controlled and dutiful. They are likely to be tidy, organised and have a common sense, practical approach to problem solving. They are also persevering, some might say stubborn. Their friends and work
10、colleagues may describe them as a perfectionist. At the opposite end, the flexible personality can tolerate untidiness, may ignore protocol and follows an expedient, often imaginative approach to solving problems.Very few people will exhibit the extremes described above. Most of us have a balance be
11、tween these aspects and would be positioned somewhere in between the two opposing poles.KNOW YOURSELFThe first step towards developing your growing you personality is knowing yourself.No person is the same as another in this world. Each person is unique in his own sense.So you are unique and also am
12、azing. Wonder why? Are you aware that you have over 12 billion brain cells which could look like stars under a microscope? Your brain is the finest precision machine in existence and is far more powerful than the most sophisticated computer ever made. Yet we use just one-tenth of our brain power. Ar
13、e you also aware that your metabolic system works with such clockwork precision that even the most advanced factory system cannot compare with it? You will marvel at the design of the human bodyIn spite of this greatness, many suffer from a poor self- image and an inferiority complex that hampers th
14、eir personal growth and prevents them from putting best efforts in their spheres of activity. God has made each of us a masterpiece of his creation in spite of all our imperfections. While in this age we talk about state-of art technology, God thought of it when he created each of us. So we have eve
15、ry reason to feel great and to achieve great things for ourselves, for others and for God. A POSITIVE SELF IMAGEOur self-image is the complex impression we have about our physical appearance, social rules, personal history and personality traits; and it matters a lot. The image we have of ourselves
16、is an important factor in the development of our skills and our personality, in the maintenance of our emotional health and in the sheer enjoyment of life!Those with a negative self-image tend to:- Lack self-confidence.- Feel insecure, sceptical and fearful.- Accept being ignored, hurt and rebuffed.
17、- Have no pride in their achievements.- Feel embarrassed by compliments.Those with a positive self-image tend to:- Accept themselves as they are.- Accept others as they are.- Feel secure and confident.- Have reasonable pride in themselves and their achievements.- Accept compliments gracefully.The fa
18、mous psychologist and author of the book, “Games People Play”, late Dr Eric Berne, exploded the attitudes of people toward themselves and others. Through research and observation, he identified 4 attitudes to life:1. Im not O.K., youre not O.K.(The Sulk)Such a person- Is an introvert and cannot acce
19、pt himself.- Suffers from an inferiority complex and gets away from others.- Thinks his life is not worth much, so looks for support.- Get negative strokes.2. Im not O.K., youre O.K.(The Loser)Such person- Rejects himself, so does not trust himself and others.- Cannot get along with others, easily g
20、ives up.- Thinks that life is not worth living, blames the whole world for his problems.- Give and gets negative strokes.3. Im O.K., youre not O.K.(The Arrogant)Such a person- Forcibly asserts self-acceptance.- Is bossy and demanding, gets rid of others.- Thinks that his life is more important than
21、that of others.- Gives negative strokes.4. Im O.K., youre O.K.(The Winner)Such a person- Accepts himself and others as they are.- Gets along with others with mutual respect.- Thinks that life is worth living.- Gives and gets positive strokes.Here is a 5-point technique of coming to grips with yourse
22、lf to create a positive self-image.1. Believe in yourselfRemember that your unique thumb impression makes you a person uniquely gifted by God with your special talents. So dont compare yourself to others.Compete only with yourself like the great pole-vaulter, Sergei Bubka.2. Rediscover yourself Know
23、 your strengths and build on them; also know your weaknesses and correct them. The only person you can change is yourself. If you dont like the way you are, its time to change.3. Discover others around youAccept other people as they are because you cannot change them but you can influence them to ch
24、ange only if you change yourself.4. Focus on successUnfortunately we choose to remember only bad times, hardships and failures. Remember you were born to succeed. Think of your past achievements and the good times youve had with your family and friends. Then put in your efforts in whatever you do. 5
25、. Live and act for what you believe is rightA lot of people can tell you what to do and what not to do, but nobody can really advise you correctly on ethics. Set your own high personal moral standards and live up to them and you will eventually be respected. Aiming at ExcellenceExcellence means givi
26、ng your best effort in whatever you do. Your best efforts are different from another persons best efforts and these cannot be compared because everyone has strengths and weakness.Try guidelines given below:1. Be ambitious: Think big depending upon your personal strengths and weaknesses. If you are s
27、trong in certain areas, keep it up; if you are weak in certain other areas, get out of the rut by reducing your weaknesses. It is only when you think and aim at something big that you will begin to act and prepare in a manner that will bring you success. Make a small beginning; the old Chinese prove
28、rb says that “the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.”2. Set goals: Setting foals is like aiming at a target. It helps you plan activities that will tale you along the proper road to your destination. Planning is like a bridge that takes you from where you are to where you want t
29、o be. If you dont plan where you are to reach, then any road will take you somewhere. Once you have set your goals, start early; otherwise you get caught up in the traffic jam of other activities.3. Dont be afraid of mistakes: There is nobody in this world who can honestly and confidently say that h
30、e never makes mistakes. Nobody makes mistakes for fun. All great discoveries and inventions have been made through trial and error. Thomas Alva Edison who invented the electric bulb succeeded after almost 2500 experiments. Mistakes enable us to learn to do things better.4. Have a positive attitude:
31、Whenever we attempt anything there is a tendency to be alert about the consequences of failure. Why not be alert to the consequences of success also? After all we do get so obsessed with the consequences that we constantly have starting trouble. There is always an element of risk in whatever we do.
32、A tortoise can never move forward and progress without sticking its neck out of the shell.5. Perseverance is the key: Whenever we dont achieve what we have aimed at, there is a tendency to give up. It is only in very exceptional cases that one reaches the top in the first attempt. When you persevere
33、, never give up; look at failure as lack of success or a temporary setback rather than as a defeat. With this attitude, you will motivate yourself to continue with your attempts in whatever you do until you reach excellence. Remember failures are stepping stones to success.Nuturing Your Creative Pow
34、erA double decker bus once got stuck under a bridge; the police, fire brigade personnel, architects, engineers and town planners gathered on the scene and were seriously discussing ways to get the bus out from under the bridge. A little boy riding his tricycle enquired into the matter and was shoute
35、d away. When he came to know of the problem, he suggested to all those learned people to simple deflate the tyres!On another occasion, a large statue about 30 feet in height which was carved out of a single rock had to be moved a distance of about 100 kms through hilly terrain. During a brainstormin
36、g session, one official mentioned that he thought only of a pregnant cat. Although it seemed funny, nobody laughed. The group watched the movements of a pregnant cat and subsequently designed the trailer of a truck based on the movement of a pregnant cat, that could hold a heavy statue as well as ca
37、rry it over 100 kms of winding roads. The exercise was a success.Most youngsters today are caught up in academic competitions and are forced to live stereotyped lives revolving around studies, tuitions and special classes. Enjoying life by doing things differently hardly ever matters because of vari
38、ous pressures from all sides. All of us have creative bent, but what matters is how we identify this talent for creativity and make use of it. Here are some suggestions:1. Be aware : There is so much happening around us that we take things for granted and just tolerate what is going on. It is import
39、ant to be alert and conscious or else we are merely existing rather than living. 17-year-old Pinky once slipped on a banana skin while walking on the pavement and hurt herself badly. Since then she has been carrying a foldable paper bag whenever she goes out and collects fruit skins from the road an
40、d throws them in the nearest garbage bin. It is her contribution to reducing garbage in a small way in a big city like Mumbai.2. Be curious : Keep on asking questions. Find out why certain events take place and their significance; like the numerous Indian festivals; or why people behave the way they
41、 do, which sometimes defies logic and understanding. Albert Einstein had the habit of lying down on the grass and looking up at the sky. His teachers often told him that he would never succeed in life, yet he introduced the Theory of Relativity for which he won the Nobel Prize for Physics.3. Be open
42、 to change : The world around us is changing rapidly because new and imaginative ideas are being generated almost everyday in every field. The common refrain once was spare the rod and spoil the child. In those days parents and teachers believed that they had to be strict with children to keep them
43、under control. Today parents and teachers are being encouraged not to dominate children but to treat them as their friends; and instead of controlling their behaviour, it is far better to convince them. Instead of beating our children, it would be far more rewarding to convince them to out point of
44、view, although often it is a test of out patience.4. Be prepared to learn: Knowledge is not a monopoly of any person or a group of persons. Learning is a lifelong process. At a training programme on “Customer Service” for a petroleum company in Mumbai, the participants were those who actually fill p
45、etrol or diesel into the vehicles and barely a few could read or write. At one of the training sessions, a participant compared the petroleum company to a huge truck with large tyres and tubes, totally costing about Rs 10 lakhs. Thereafter he compared himself and the others to the nozzle inside thos
46、e tubes costing Rs 20.00; so he felt that he and the others were insignificant people doing a menial job. As soon as he had finished another participant stated, “mere dost, yeh bees rupaye ki nozzle dus lakh ki gaadi ko khada kar saktha hai!” ( my friend, this nozzle worth Rs 20.00 can hold up a tru
47、ck costing Rs 10 lakhs!) How true! Amazingly simple yet fortnight statement an important lesson for all of us.5. Keep trying : We seem to cultivate a tendency of giving up all efforts after a few tries. In spite of the many odds that we force, patience and perseverance had always been rewarded in th
48、e long run. Thomas Alva Edison as pointed out in earlier chapter, failed about 2500 times in the process of creating the light bulb. His associates wanted to give up the effort when he told them, “This is not the time to give up, we now know that there are 2500 ways that do not work”. Subsequently they succeeded.How to Build Self-ConfidenceHow did you feel when you first appeared on a stage to act in a play or stood before an audience to give speech at your first elocution competition? H
